Communication Is More Than Just Words: The Depth You’ve Been Missing

We’ve all heard the phrase “communication is key,” right? It’s something we toss around in casual conversation, like it’s a simple thing to unlock. But here’s the truth: communication isn’t just talking to each other. It’s not about exchanging words and hoping someone hears what you said.
Real communication goes far beyond that.
It’s about energy.
It’s about intention.
It’s about the unspoken — what’s felt and understood, not just said.
Let me break it down for you.

The Layers of Communication You’re Not Seeing

1. Verbal Communication: Sure, this is the part that everyone focuses on. Words, tone, volume — but here’s the catch: The way something is said matters as much as the words themselves. We’ve all heard someone say one thing but feel like something entirely different is being communicated. Why? Because tone speaks louder than words sometimes.
2. Nonverbal Communication: Your body language, your eyes, your posture — they say more than you realize. If you’re folding your arms, avoiding eye contact, or clenching your jaw, you’re saying something whether you want to or not. And the person you’re talking to? They’re picking up on it. Even if you don’t think they are.
3. Energetic Communication: This one is huge. Your energy is a silent message. Ever been in a room where everything seems fine, but you can cut the tension with a knife? Or have you ever felt completely at ease with someone, even without a word spoken? That’s your energy talking, and it’s a critical part of communication.
4. Somatic Communication: Here’s where it gets personal. How does the person you’re communicating with feel in their body during your exchange? Are they relaxed? Anxious? Safe? When you speak, you’re not just sending words into the air — you’re sending an energetic imprint into the space, and people are feeling it. They might not even be able to name the feeling, but it’s there.
5. Intentional Communication: Do your words match your intent? Are you speaking from a place of authenticity, or are you just saying things because you feel like you should? Intent is the most powerful form of communication, and if there’s a disconnect between your words and your true intentions, that person will sense it. They might not know why they don’t trust you, but they’ll feel it.

When Was the Last Time Someone Truly Heard You?It’s rare. I’m not going to lie. In a world full of noise, it’s not often that we’re truly heard. But when it happens — when someone really sees you, hears you, and understands the energy you’re putting out — it feels like magic.
That’s the communication we crave.
We want to feel safe in our conversations. We want to feel like we’re not just talking to someone, but sharing a space of understanding, trust, and presence. When was the last time you felt that way? When was the last time you didn’t have to explain yourself or filter your thoughts to avoid being misunderstood?

What Happens When Communication Goes Deeper?When you start recognizing all these layers of communication, something shifts. You begin to feel the difference in your relationships. You realize that what’s really missing in many conversations is presence.
It’s about more than getting your point across — it’s about being seen for the person you are, with all your energy, needs, and emotions. And it’s about giving that same presence to others, holding the space for them to be exactly who they are, without judgment, without the need to “fix” them.
We’re not just talking to each other. We’re feeling each other. We’re connecting.
​So, Where Do You Go From Here?I want you to think about your next conversation. Whether it’s with a friend, a colleague, or even a stranger. How are you showing up? Are you really listening? Are you feeling their energy? Are you letting them feel yours?
If communication is more than just words, then how you communicate will start to change everything.
If you're looking for personal guidance on how to improve your communication, build deeper connections, or shift your mindset, send me a message. I’m here to help you break through those barriers and create meaningful, lasting change.

Sloane
PrimeFit 55+